Real listening

Real listening is a dynamic involvement between two people. It is a type of intimate relationship. When somebody tells me her story, whether it is the first time of her telling or not, it is as though she is trying on a piece of clothing: She needs to know how it fits, how it looks to herself and to others, how she feels in it, how it may transform her, what other accessories she might need to complement it, how she can embellish it, who she can trust to give her feedback. Is her dress true? Is her story true? Is it perhaps that the truth lies as much beneath the dress as it does beneath the details of the story? If she is trying on her dress for me, what does she truly wish to hear: is it about the dress, or rather a deeper issue of her sense Continue reading Real listening